We had a fight on this. I tried to reach her to explain that I was just concern for your safety and since I got head enjury on that day, I was not in stable condition as my head was spinning on each bad thought. Anyways she didnt realize it and thought I was making a story. I kept writting her emails sending cards etc for 1 months.
Meanwhile I was also preparing my new home for her. I thought she is angry and eventually one day understand my LOVE to her what she always have been seeking in me. The first time she knew that I am in the city she didnt meet me. Her friends advised me to meet her after 5 days, Second time I again tried to meet her, this time she mate me. I stayed with her for 4 days. After settling all I came back to my place. On 31st Dec night , I asked her to skype with me at After seeing repetitive her behaviour, I couldnot control on myself and yelled on her to ask her why she is doing that way.
After that she again stopped talking to me and blocked me from eveyr where even though I sent her sorry message and called twice. I started doing all the things what she always wanted from me. I am unable to understand that how some one be so insensitive and irresponsible about relationship who breaks the relationship in every kind of fight? This is obsession, healthy love is not that demanding and focused on rules and feelings. Sometimes, for true love you have to rewrite the rules. Let her be and if u stop forcing her to do certain things and be certain way, she will come around.
Just be patient. I am also in your same situation but as for me I was there for him in every of his problems.. Financially physically.. I gave up my everything for him.. I took money for him to almost all my friends to help him it almost reached lakh. I even ended up loosing my job cos of him I was humiliated in front of my Co workers cos of him… He cheated me he asked me to take money from my friends imotionally blackmailing me to spent that money on his so called gf.
He said the girl did not love her and think him as a friend but they even make love. But they were not in relation and he cheated the girl too saying he is single. I did not blame the girl at first I pleaded him to be with me but later on after I learnt that he is not for me I tried to move on but he again came back to me after 3 months of breakup saying he wants to be with me and that he was sorry.
He used to share his feelings to his friend saying which he never do and which I never acted so his words haunts me a lot so I used to argue and we used to fight a lot. My question is m I wrong to argue him and stop talking about me which I nvr did to his female friends.. Is this still an obsession?? Keep in mind that for an obsessed person, the opinion of the other person does not matter at all — what matters is how he or she feels and what he or she wants.
The person they are obsessed with is not treated like an equal or even as a person. I guess the biggest difference between love and obsession would be how hard it is to accept rejection from the other person. Of course, the way in which a person reacts depends on their nature, as well as their mental stability.
Some even choose to cry and sob and threaten to commit suicide if the other person does not resume their relationship. Others get physically violent, either with the person they are obsessed with, like beating them to a pulp and then apologising later on for doing what they did, or with their property, mostly their apartment which will be totally trashed.
Some even choose to threaten the new partner that the other person chooses to date. Such people do not have any individuality; the more they obsess over someone, the more they lose sight of who they really are.
Therapy and psychiatric help is available for both the victims and the perpetrators. Please Log In or add your name and email to post the comment. You'll know it's obsession if they act in irrational ways if they aren't able to talk to you on any given day.
For instance, they may keep calling over and over until they finally get in contact with you. It's good to have a partner who cares and is concerned enough to know what you're doing and where you're going. But there's a fine line between being caring and being controlling. For instance, if they need to know where you are at all times and who you're with, that can be obsessive behavior. If their "care" starts to feel overbearing, it's probably obsession, and definitely something you should talk to them about.
For instance, if you get a promotion at work, they may not seem as happy and excited for you because they're thinking about how your promotion might change your relationship. Your partner will be excited for you and will support you as you grow as an individual. When someone is obsessed with you, everything you do will be "right" even if they don't actually agree with you. According to Sassoon, they may just agree with everything you say and do just to keep you in their life.
When it's love, your partner will be able to be honest with you about their own feelings. They won't worry about whether or not they'll lose you for telling the truth. You've finally found someone who finds all your little quirks endearing, and who you can share your spit with. Usually, if you're dating someone, you either have the feeling or you don't.
If it doesn't work out, it tends to be because there's no spark, the chemistry is off, or you just don't have enough in common. When it is working, you'll have butterflies and want to see the person again and again. But while it's easy to get wrapped up in the whirlwind of a new relationship, it's important to remember there's a difference between a healthy, growing love, and an unhealthy obsession.
When you first meet someone, your expectations might have been tainted by romantic films and books. You probably expect to be swept off your feet, and told how your new lover "can't live without" you. In reality, this might not actually be what you should aim for.
If someone you are dating showers you with affection and gifts right at the start, it could be a sign of love bombing — where a manipulative person makes you believe you've found "the one," only to start being cruel and distant once they've hooked you.
It's a tactic abusive narcissists often use to control their partners, because the victim will do anything to get the attentive, kind person back who they thought they met at the beginning. Being all-consumed by a relationship in its early stages could also be a sign of obsession.
Being completely engrossed in someone isn't necessarily a red flag that your partner is abusive, but it isn't a good sign either. In his book " The Psychology of Passion: A Dualistic Model ," psychologist Robert Vallerand says obsessive passion is more of a threat to a relationship than no passion at all.
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